Thetha, Ungavalwa: Kutheni Uthethathethwano Lusisakhono Esibalulekileyo Emntwaneni noMzali

Abazali abaninzi bakufumanisa kunzima ukuthetha-thethana nabantwana, kuba iingxoxo ziphela ngelizwi elithi, “kungenxa yokuba nditshilo”.

Le ndlela ihlala ishiya umntwana eziva engaviwanga, ngoxa umzali naye esala enetyala.

Xa oku kusenzeka rhoqo, ubudlelwane bentsapho bunokungabi sempilweni.

Kwinkqubo yeCapeTalk, uSara-Jayne Makwala King uthethe no-Advocate Veerash Srikison, ongumlamli oqeqeshiweyo nowangumhlohli weLeadership eStellenbosch Business School.

Ingxoxo yabo ibijolise ekubeni kutheni kubalulekile ukufundisa abantwana iindlela zothethathethwano ezisempilweni, nendlela ezi zakhono ezibanceda ngayo kubudlelwane babo bexesha elizayo.

USrikison ucacise ukuba abantu abadala abaninzi abasokola ukuveza iimfuno zabo nokunxibelelana kakuhle bahlala beneengcambu zobuntwana apho bengazange bazive bethembekile okanye beviwe.

Ngenxa yoko, kubalulekile ukuba umzali aqonde umahluko phakathi kokuyalela nokuthetha-thethana, ukuze akhe ukuzithemba komntwana ngelixa egcina umthetho wasekhaya.

Ukuba umntwana uvalelwa ngaphandle kwencoko ngaphandle kwengcaciso, angakholelwa ukuba ilizwi lakhe alibalulekanga nokuba yonke into ayithethayo ayichanekanga.

USrikison ugxininise oku ngelithi: “Akukho xesha lide kakhulu lokwakha imeko yokuthembana.”

Lo myalezo ubalulekile kubazali abafuna ulungelelwaniso phakathi komda nentlonipho.

Ingcebiso yakhe ephambili kukuba abazali baqale ngemibuzo evulekileyo elula, baze bamamele ngononophelo.

Xa umntwana enikwa ithuba lokuvakalisa uluvo lwakhe aze aqondiswe ngengcaciso ecacileyo yomntu omdala, kufundeka uxanduva, ubunini bezigqibo, nokuthembana.

Ezi zakhono zenza abantwana bakhule benobuchule bokunxibelelana nobudlelwane obuzinzileyo.